Before I came out here I was already stressing about what I was going to do when I got home. I’d given up my apartment, my job, my gym, everything. I was panicking thinking oh shit what the hell am I doing?! But now as I sit with my legs dangling over a wall, the sea breeze tickling my toes I am confident that I made the right decision.
The journey so far has opened my eyes and helped me in a lot of ways. Now, when I look back and think about the stresses that seemed so huge at the time I realise they weren’t that big at all, in fact now I wouldn’t even call them stresses.
They say that travelling on your own is one of the best gifts to give to yourself and I agree. With no boyfriend, no kids, no worries back home, I believe it can enhance you as a person. When you’re on your own you have to just get shit done, yes you can have a flap and a cry on the phone to your parents but all it is is you and the problem. Facing it head on is the only way to deal with it. You are in charge of you, your money, your safety, your health, everything. It’s a vital step that I needed to take at this time in my life.
One month ago almost to this day I was crying on my friend’s shoulder on New Years Eve because I didn’t have anyone to kiss at midnight, I was so distraught that I didn’t have a partner to spend Christmas with – again, I was on the verge on checking into a nunnery. But now I realise, does it really matter? I’m 23 years old, do I need to be married right now? Do I need to start a family right now? It had completely consumed me so much that I couldn’t enjoy walking down the street without cursing a happy couple.
I believe that you need to spend time on your own to discover who you are and what you want. God knows that sounds like a clichΓ© but I understand that now. I’m single and I’m ok about that. In fact, right now I’m thankful of that. Thankful that I haven’t got to sit and think what my boyfriend is doing or who that girl is who wrote on his Facebook wall. I’m over that shit! It’ll happen when it happens. I might meet someone walking back to the car, I might meeting someone in 5 years time, who knows but all I know is that I feel ok. I feel good right now and I encourage anyone who feels like they are stuck in a rut, afraid to take the leap of faith to do it because I can promise you with 100% that you will not regret it.
Sending you love, courage and happiness from the ocean.
H x